Scared Settler

Your empty nester role is the Scared Settler. A Scared Settler, as you can probably guess, feels no passion in their day-to-day activities and as a result, is the most unfulfilled of all empty nester roles. Their life lacks meaning and purpose, which leaves them feeling unmotivated, frustrated, and often sad.
The problem most Scared Settlers face is that, because their lack of fulfillment leaves them so unmotivated, they have little to no commitment to making a change.
The Scared Settler is usually more afraid to disrupt the lives of others than go after what she wants so she plods along living her life on other people’s terms, probably having frequent thoughts that life is passing her by.
She might even share feelings with her close friends that she feels stuck and unhappy. However, she is afraid to take action and will likely ignore any well-meaning advice. She is more scared to leave her comfort zone even though, deep down, she realizes a change is what she needs.
You may find her trying to escape her reality with mindless activities like watching endless TV or maybe burying her head in books to bide her time. She is also probably spending much of her time being inactive. She avoids "healthy" activities that are good for her like exercise and good nutrition… because she has very little energy.
She might get an idea of something to start which excites her - like a new hobby or a part-time gig of some sort - anything to help her find joy... but often it is just a temporary fleeting thing that doesn’t last because she gives up the moment she feels uncomfortable. Her fear keeps her stuck repeating the same things that will continue to produce the same feelings.
But there is good news... YOU TOOK ACTION today by taking this quiz!!!
And a Scared Settler would not do that. So the fact that you are here is an excellent sign that a shift is starting to happen... you are seeking change! Woohoo!!!
This is proof you have the desire to get out of the scared role you may feel stuck in and a perfect opportunity to do so by continuing to take positive actions that will lead you to the life you want and DESERVE.
Now that you know the role you’ve been playing, you probably realize just having this knowledge will not get you the real change you desire. There’s more work to do! But what’s great is that you’re now operating with incredible momentum simply from taking this quiz.
Use this momentum by taking another positive step: Seek out like-minded women your age who will inspire you to live more courageously - women who have similar values and are doing things you'd like to do. Find them on social media, in books, and on podcasts. Look around and make it a fun research project!
If you like what you've heard so far from me, you may want to tune into my podcast, "Living Your Sparked Second Half," where I highlight stories of women who are living their second half of life to the fullest, often with newfound passions discovered later in life.
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