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The Hard Part About Being a Parent

aging family health Apr 13, 2016

Nikki moving to CharlestonBeing a parent is soooooo hard no matter how old your kids get. You want what is best for them but that’s not always what’s best for you…

Today my oldest daughter left the state where she was born & raised. She’s left before but I’ve always known it was temporary.

She went to Florida for college but she came back.

She tried NY for a year but she came back.

She tried Charlotte, NC for a year but she came back.

Virginia was in her heart. And even though I knew she was my child with wanderlust, I knew she’d be back.

This time is different. This time I know she won’t be back. She has a family now and they are lucky enough to live anywhere. So they researched the best place to live and raise their children and they picked Charleston.

I know they will be happy there. And I am happy for them. TRULY happy! Because that’s what’s most important to a mom – her child’s happiness.

But I’m still sad for me… ...

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Love My AOL Family!

family Apr 04, 2016

I don't know if anyone but my fellow AOL old timers will truly understand this.... AOL was such a special place in the early days. And I wasn't early, early - I was just semi early. Back when it was called America Online, and it was #3 behind Prodigy and CompuServe. I began my AOL life in 1993. I spent 13 years there. It changed a lot. And I changed a lot. I had a hard time letting go of it. It was such a big part of my life...

The one thing that I'll always remember & hold dear to my heart is the INCREDIBLE people that worked there. The AMAZINGLY SMART people who I got to work with every day. And the MISSION we locked arm in arm to accomplish that we felt so passionate about - "to build a global medium as central to people's lives as the telephone and the television...and even more valuable..."

I think we succeeded!!!

One thing that I love about AOL and the family I was a part of is that we continue to periodically get together at various events. It's like a high school...

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Here's to Dipping My Feet Into the Controversial Waters

family Jun 28, 2015

I usually steer away from subjects that tend to cause a lot of controversy, like religion and politics, because they often ruffle feathers and create conflict, which I hate. But today I’ve decided to dip my feet into the controversial waters and share my view of the recent Supreme Court ruling that makes same-sex marriage a right nationwide. Not because I want to stir anything up, but because I just feel like letting people know where I stand on the issue. I saw some very shocking posts on Facebook yesterday that made me want to share my view - posts about the devil’s work and the end of the world being near. I even unfriended someone due to the remarks made. I’m all about “different strokes for different folks” but when someone is at such an opposite extreme as me, there can’t ever really be a great connection. And for me, great connections are the true basis for friendships.

What I say here today may not align with your belief system and it may...

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What Would My Grandchildren Say...

family May 26, 2015

Last week I got a whisper from the universe. I attended the funeral of a woman who was loved deeply by her family. Two of her grandchildren gave beautiful eulogies. (I was very grateful to find some used kleenex in my purse!) It struck me that if my 2 grandchildren were to give me a eulogy, they would probably say: "I love my Nannie, but she's always on the computer." I spent a lot of my children's lives on my computer, working almost 24x7 trying to build my career. I never had a 9a to 5p schedule really. It was work, work, work. (Fortunately they turned out ok in spite of that!) And now while super focused on building my 2nd career, I find I'm often tuned out during what should be family time.

So the universe gave me a good lesson! And I was paying attention. I will strive to make a better effort to be present with my grandchildren. They are so, so, so precious to me, and I enjoy them so much. And I want them to give me the kind of eulogy that I heard that day.

Thank you Jean...

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He Brings Out the Poet in Me...

family Jul 07, 2014

I first met him when I was 18. We were in college. He played rugby, and I was dating another rugby player. I noticed him on the field one day, thought he was cute and asked who he was.

A few days later, I saw him at our local college bar and introduced myself. Little did I know at the time that he was THE ONE. From the minute we met, sparks flew. We threw verbal barbs. And I remember laughing A LOT.

I won’t go into all the gory details here, but after two years, we went our separate ways. I couldn’t accept the fact that rugby was more important than me. So I moved on. Or so I thought…

A few years ago, we reconnected. He had never married and some said he never would. It was a risk, but I remembered what we had had and needed either to open that door and step in or close it for good.

Then he pulled out the poem. I didn’t remember writing it – it had been 27 years! But when I read it, I remembered the feelings he brought out of me and how much I liked...

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What will your grandkids call you?

aging family health Jun 03, 2014

Until my oldest daughter announced she was pregnant, the thought never occurred to me that I'd have a name other than mom or Laurie to be identified by. I didn't want to be Nana or Grandmom or Mimi or Grandma - these were names that were in my family & it felt funny using them. So I cogitated on it for awhile and came up with Nannie. It was perfect because it's a play on my name using the same last 2 letters. Plus, both my daughters and all of our pets have had names that end with the "ie" sound. So it just felt right. In remembering my plight of grandparent name selection, I thought it'd be fun to do a post on Facebook asking what names other people use. I got a great response which led me to think it would be helpful to put together a list & post it on my website. You never know - perhaps my list will help someone figure out how she will be referred to by generations to come. :) (I'll continue to add names as I hear more...)

Cha Cha

Ga-Ga...

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Every Family Needs an "Annie"

family Apr 02, 2014

I’m sure you’ve heard the story about the boy who was raised with wolves. Well, I was raised with pugs. Yes. My father was a pug lover and never lived a day of his adult life without one. Pugsy was the first, although I was too young to remember him. Sam was next – as in Samatha – and what I remember about her was that she was old and cranky, my least favorite of all of our family dogs. But the best thing about Sam is that she was impregnated by a collie mix who jumped over a fence into our backyard with the result being, Skeezie (named for the comic strip character Skeezix), the first dog officially acknowledged as mine. But the purpose of this article isn’t to give you a detailed history of my family pets (although I’ve listed them all at the end of this post as a sort of memoriam). This article is about why having a dog has filled up my life and made me a better person.

I’ve always had a dog and always will. They bring me happiness that...

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My One Piece of Parenting Advice

No matter how old my children get, they continue to be the sun, the moon, and the stars to me. Though they no longer live with me, they are still top of my mind: their successes, my thrills; their bad days, my lows. Their successes are what prompted me to write today because frankly, I am beaming with pride in the people they’ve become. (Sorry if this is embarrassing you two!) How would you define success for your adult child? To me it is seeing my child happy, being passionate about what she is doing, and contributing to society in a positive way.

I remember vividly the thought I had the day the nurses handed over my first, all ready to leave the hospital at 2 days old, with her new mommy & daddy: “How will she survive? I do not have the slightest clue of what I’m doing.” The poor thing! Little did she know how green we were. How nice it would have been to have a crystal ball to look into the future & see that it would all turn out just fine.

But if...

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