Eleven years today I became Mrs. Wright... The time has flown! But it's been an amazing ride, and I'm so glad I get to do the rest with him!!!
He makes my every day more fun, and I feel more loved than ever.
I met him at 18 but didn't walk down the aisle with him until I was 50. I always knew he was Mr. (W)Right, but the universe had to make us wait until the time was right.
I love this picture of us on our wedding day with my 2 daughters, who were our bridesmaids, looking on... It was a special day as it was my husband's first marriage and his friends thought the day would never happen.
Amazing things can happen late in life, if you just listen and follow your gut, no matter how high that mountain may seem. It IS possible. The dream I had at the young age of 18, finally came true.
Happy Anniversary to us and Happy (almost) Birthday to America!
They say silence is golden, but for me, I completely disagree.
In fact, I've rarely held back from speaking my mind. It's always been innate in me.
I'm not sure where it came from but clearly my parents and the community I was a part of supported that. They allowed me to express my thoughts and I did so freely.
I also was the first to speak up if I saw something I felt wasn't right or that I thought needed some attending to... Like if another person, even a stranger in a store, who was not being treated fairly. I'd speak up without any thought of risk.
I never thought about having to be quiet or stifle my voice. I can't imagine what that would feel like. But lately, what's happening in our country has made me think about it...
As a white woman of privilege, I've never had to worry about expressing myself. I've never had to fear any repercussions or concern for my safety.
And honestly, I've never really thought about how my words, even though they are true expressions of my thoughts...
Got my new backdrop up in my home studio!!! What do you think?!?!
I LOVE it! So much better than the wood paneling.
As I was putting it up and taking photos, I thought how lucky I am that I had the gumption, at the ripe old age of 55, to start experimenting with an online business.
And then when that didn’t go as well as I had expected, I kept being curious and learning more about what was possible.
Something inside of me kept me going and believing I was meant for more, that my corporate job wasn’t what I was put here on Earth to do.
As I was hamming it up for the camera, the thought came to me that THIS is my life! The life I created from scratch!!! All because I hated what I was doing & it sucked the life out of me 5 days a week. And I refused to live that way any longer!
If you are reading this wishing you could feel that way too, all I can say based on my own personal experience, is to never give up on finding out what it is that lights you up and then find a...
I was triggered by something the other day and felt called to share it in the hopes that it will enlighten others...
Before I start with the story, let me remind you that I am not here to judge anyone else's beliefs or to push my beliefs on you. I am just attempting to share my own personal experience and my processing of what is happening in the world today.
I am well aware that my processing is all wrapped up in the lens I see out of, which is unlike anyone else's because we all have our own unique lens we look out of, and unlike our eyeglass prescriptions, no two lenses are alike!!!
Here's what happened...
I heard a very tragic story about a police officer, and as reported, a very good cop - nothing like Derek Chavin, the monster who killed George Floyd. Steven Gutzwiller was ambushed and killed, leaving his 2 year old child and a pregnant wife.
And it triggered in me the fact that, if this was all happening in the 80s or 90s, that widow could have been me, and those babies could...
I remember back when I was an executive at AOL, I never felt like I "fit" the role. ... When I got promoted to Vice President, I felt out of place because I always thought I wasn't credentialed enough.
I was working with some super smart and well-educated people, with advanced degrees from Stanford and Harvard Business school, and here I was... a person with only 3 years at a B-rated college under her belt.
Yeah! I worked hard, got along well with my peers, and ended up being rewarded for my efforts - even though climbing the corporate ladder was not on my agenda - because, honestly, the voice in my head always compared my lack of an education to the people I worked with. So I pegged myself as less capable than them...
So if you asked the old me if one day I'd have my own business and would be helping others start their own online businesses, you'd probably see her jaw drop, followed by a deer-in-headlights stare, before she blurted out: "I don't have what it takes to do THAT!"
I'm so glad I had my girls young and got to be a grandma pretty early in life (at 51)...
I remember wanting so badly to get married and have children, and thinking I was gonna be an old maid - when I was 20!!! LOL!
Fortunately, my dream came true! I met my first husband a month before I turned 21. Eight months later, we were married (not pregnant!) and less than 18 months later, our first daughter was born.
Then 18 months after that, our second daughter was born. Our family was complete just 6 days after my 25th birthday!
I believe I wanted to be a young mom because I had young parents. And what was so terrific about having young parents is that my girls got to know them, and they got to see ALL 4 of their grandchildren graduate from college which means they saw them grow into adults.
We can't predict when we'll become moms or grandmas, but I know that I want to be around a long time so I can be known by my grandchildren. I want them to remember me as someone who lived life to her...
I took a big risk at age 50... jumping into a 2nd marriage with a guy who I fell in love with at age 18 and had a track record of non-commitment.
It sounds rather romantic that we reconnected after 27 years apart but our relationship back in the late 70s was a struggle. That soul-deep-love and passion were there for sure, but so were the arguments. Breaking up and getting back together were our thing...
He wanted his independence, and I wanted to control him and to be the center of his world, which at 20 years old, was not his idea of fun. So I finally decided to stop fighting a battle I couldn't win & moved on...
But I never forgot him...
And one day, 27 years later, I googled his name, found a phone number and called him. If I had told any of my friends, they would have told me I was crazy so I kept it to myself & arranged to meet him for lunch.
That risk was soooo worth it!!! This time around, I have the relationship I always wanted with him... I'm a priority in his life,...
How about some reflection on this special day?
I believe being a mom is one of THE most important jobs we can be given. And I know I have loved every minute.
Of course, being the mom of adult children is kind of like I'm retired from momhood now, but that job gave me lots of insight which is now being shared in my role as wise advisor to my 2 daughters who are navigating the world of littles.
Today I celebrate the work I did in raising my 2 magnificent children. They, if I may brag a bit, turned out to be amazing human beings and are doing a damn good job as mommies, better than I was for sure! (It looks like the cloning of a better version of me worked!!!)
And since they turned out pretty darn fabulous, I thought I'd share a few of the things I did right, that weren't always the easiest:
* I gave them space to fail. My advice: Don't swoop in and try to ease their pain. Failure leads to the best lessons in life.
* I made them pay for their own mistakes. My advice: If they get a parking...
What are YOU waiting (and wishing) to do again?
In this season of social distancing and carry-out, I’ve found myself longing for a nice dinner out socializing with friends, and although patience is by far not my strongest virtue, I keep reminding myself that good things come to those who wait.
So when frustration & feelings of isolation set in, remember: This season won’t last forever! This too shall pass...
And when it comes, I'm sure it will be better than we could have imagined because we will appreciate it so much more!
What's first on your list to do when society opens back up again?
Having a rough day? You’re not alone, friend! I’ve been there, too.
In fact, I was there JUST YESTERDAY!!! I was feeling so not myself. Not the positive, high energy, bubbly version of me.
Perhaps it was because I started a 3 day cleanse... Or maybe it was the fact I was putting together all of the info for my taxes - not my most favorite thing to do!
By day's end, I chose a piece of pizza, chocolate chip cookies and a glass of rose wine for dinner!!! So much for my cleanse!
Whenever I struggle like that, I first give myself grace because it happens. And second, I'm grateful that I'm aware of what's going on in my head and know that it is temporary.
I know that tomorrow will dawn a new day and I can start over again, which I did in the case of my cleanse!!! Yay! Day 1 is in the books and was a success!!!
AND, the tax work I've spent HOURS on in the past week is DONE!!! At least for 2019!
So in case you need a little extra boost today, consider this post your virtual...