"Judgment comes from a place of fear, disdain, or even hate." by Rachel Hollis from "Girl Wash Your Face"
No judgement here if you are "judgy." This comes from my and a place of love because I want to be a force that makes a difference. I want to inspire positive change.
Part of the reason is because I used to be the most judgmental person so I understand. And I know change is possible no matter who you are or how old you are.
I'm a work in progress trying to get better every day. If you ever see my judgy side come out, call me on it please!!!
Here are a few tips from Rachel:
1. "Find nonjudgmental friends. We tend to become whoever we surround ourselves with. If your friends are full of gossip & vitriol, I promise you'll start to develop the habit. When you are looking for a community of women, look for ones who want to build each other up instead of year each other down." (or talk shit about others - those are my words! Rachel didn't cuss. )
2. Police yourself. "If...
When I look at this little guy, I think about how much I want to be a part of his life. Being a grandma is different than being a mom because you know how precious time is and how fast it can fly by...
I want him to know me - the VIBRANT and FUN-FILLED me! I don't want him to ever see me as the old fuddy duddy who can't do things.
That thought motivates me like no other. It makes me WANT to stay focused on my health. It pushes me to press play & do my workout every day.
I'll be 77 when I go to his high school graduation. I'll be 81 when I go to his college graduation. And chances are I'll be close to 90 when I go to his wedding.
The images of those events in my head drives a deeper level of commitment to the habits I've developed of eating healthy and exercising
How big is your commitment to your own personal health and to being there for special events 30 years from now?
If it's not big, I urge you to change that TODAY! And COMMIT!!!!
If you need a support system, I'm still...
I love that my 2 girls are sooo close! That was so important to me as a mom!!!
One thing I think I did well is that I never took sides when they got into fights. I always made them solve their own problems and it worked! :D
If you're a mom, and your child comes to you to complain about his/her sibling, always ask him/her to put himself/herself in the other person's shoes. Ask what he/she did to help contribute to the issue.
Never solve your child's problems for them. It will not serve them in the long run!!!
And the best part... they will stop coming to you to complain about their sibling once they realize you won't get involved.
Be a good mom. Let your kids stand on their own two feet... Even if they wobble!!!
Then one day, they might let you go to concerts with them and will even help you with your make up!!!
I can’t believe it’s the first day of August!!! July was a very BIG MONTH for me... but perhaps an even bigger month for my youngest daughter as she & her husband welcomed their firstborn!
I became a grandmother for the 4th time on July 12th which means I now have 3 grandsons and one granddaughter - and yet another birthday to remember!!! LOL!
In case you missed him on my social media, here is the handsome Mathew Harrison Wallace, Jr. He is destined for dimples because both of his parents have them!
I feel so blessed that my children have had easy births and healthy children. #knockonwood
Not only did I welcome a new grandchild but I also had my 3 older grandchildren come for a visit this month. In fact, they just left last Saturday! I was responsible for the 19 month old for just a couple of nights so I wasn’t on "watch-him-like-a-hawk" duty for too long. He is into everything and moves quite fast so it was exhausting....
(Blog post from last year I thought was a good one so I'm reposting it with the hope it will still inspire someone to take a 2nd chance!)
Do you believe in second chances?
Do you believe in the kind where you take a chance on something that you failed at before?
Do you believe in the kind where you give someone else a second chance at being the person you knew they were capable of but failed you before?
I do. I believe in both kinds.
I want to believe that we all learn from our mistakes, that we get wiser and better with each failure.
And that possibly, just possibly, we become more determined to succeed the next time we have that chance.
When I was 47, I made a second chance decision. It was super scary. I had voices in my head telling me it was too big of a risk, that it would only lead to heartache again.
But I had to choose to try. I have only one life to live and I didn't want my life to end with any what if's.
And then there was that gut thing... I had this...
Just sent this photo to someone who was a major influence in my rebirth. Sometimes we just need THAT person who makes us feel the impossible is possible.
I've only met him a couple of times but he was my virtual trainer and helped me realize that aging really IS for Idiots. #thankstony
He happens to be my age - actually I think he is a few months older! It definitely helps when you can identify with some who is relatable. When I found out he was my age, it made me feel like: "Then why not me?!?!"
So go find YOUR person - that person who will make you believe anything is possible.
I know some people may not understand why I am in tears seeing Justify win the Triple Crown....
Do you have any idea how AMAZING that is?!?! TWICE IN 40 years!
I am an animal lover. I am especially a horse lover. I used to own one. I used to ride every day. I loved riding. It was such a passion of mine.
I've been thinking about starting again. It's been in my mind since last summer when I took my granddaughter to her first riding lesson.
I think it's time. No more just thinking! I'm going to call tomorrow and get started.
If it makes you cry, DO IT, right?
Thank you Justify, for reigniting a long idle passion.
One thing I used to always love to do was take my kids to the grocery store. In fact I loved taking my kids EVERYWHERE.
I never understood why other moms would want to run errands alone. Guess I'm weird like that but life was always more fun with them around me.
So venturing off to the store with 2 of my 3 grandkids to pick up all the grub for yesterday's party was a blast!!!
I even navigated the Macdaddy of shopping carts! We only crashed twice!!!
I might be 2 pumpkin muffins poorer but so much richer for the experience!
Do you have jewelry that has meaning?
I’m not a big jewelry person. In fact, I tend to wear the same stuff every day and I rarely wear bracelets until just recently.
I LOVE these bracelets as they each have real meaning to me.
I got the jade one in Notting Hill, England last month when I learned it’s a fantastic balancing stone. Something just called me to buy it and I’ve worn it almost daily since.
My smiley face bracelet I found on Etsy. It is my essence to a “T!” It’s a daily reminder to be a positive light to others. I haven’t taken It off since I got it about 3 months ago.
My heart bracelet is a reminder of the sisterhood I share with my college BFFs. I bought one for each one of us to wear as a reminder of our love for each other.
I’d love to see what is special to you and hear why.... #yourturn
My husband may kill me for posting this but I’ll take that risk because I want his action to have a bigger impact.
When was the last time you wrote a love note to your significant other?
You may not think of this as a love note but if you know him, it is. He loves football more than life itself and he wants ME to watch it with him. Good thing I love football too!!!
When I saw this sitting on the counter, it made me smile. It touched me that he took the time and that he cares.
Do me a favor. Write a sweet note to you sig other today. Leave it on the kitchen counter or on his/her pillow.
I guarantee you will get a ton of benefit out of that simple action. Show your love. Give it freely with no expectation.
Happy Saturday! xxxooo