Just had to share this crazy story...
I’ve had this picture for years... It was a gift from my father who bought it for my ex husband and I after our last Bernese Mountain dog died. At the time, we were so heartbroken that we decided to get a smaller dog that would live longer... No more BMDs.
So this picture was special. It gave us amazing memories of our Berners. We had 3 of those amazing dogs before we switched to a Chihuahua.
Not too long after we got that picture, my husband and I split up and I ended up with both the dog and the picture.
Fast forward to several years later...
The picture hangs in the guest room so we rarely look at it. This past weekend, my youngest grandson who is 22 months old was visiting with his parents. As he was playing in the bed with his mommy, he looked at the picture, pointed and said “Moji!”
My daughter looked up and was dumbfounded, as I was when she told me what happened...
The dog in the foreground of the picture, standing right...
Every single one of my dogs has had a name ending with an "eee" sound... like my name: Laurie. #weirdrandomfact
I've had Skeezi, Willie, Gerdy, Snoopy, Burkie, Ziggy, Josie, Chewy, Dobby, and now Moji.
People think that Moji stands for "emoji" but nope... Moji stands for "mojo" but since mojo doesn't end with an "eee" sound, I had to improvise and invent a name!
A unique name for a unique, sweet boy who has brought such joy into my life. My Moji!
And now you know one more weird random fact about me!
Time for you to share one of yours with me!!!
How about some reflection on this special day?
I believe being a mom is one of THE most important jobs we can be given. And I know I have loved every minute.
Of course, being the mom of adult children is kind of like I'm retired from momhood now, but that job gave me lots of insight which is now being shared in my role as wise advisor to my 2 daughters who are navigating the world of littles.
Today I celebrate the work I did in raising my 2 magnificent children. They, if I may brag a bit, turned out to be amazing human beings and are doing a damn good job as mommies, better than I was for sure! (It looks like the cloning of a better version of me worked!!!)
And since they turned out pretty darn fabulous, I thought I'd share a few of the things I did right, that weren't always the easiest:
* I gave them space to fail. My advice: Don't swoop in and try to ease their pain. Failure leads to the best lessons in life.
* I made them pay for their own mistakes. My advice: If they get a parking...
It is my hope that you are quarantined with your favorite people and pets! Those that make you laugh, that make you feel good... the ones you'd choose to be with in this type of situation.
The saying: "You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with" has never had such meaning!!!
Our sweet, old dog died in January, and my husband wasn't really ready to jump back in the ring when I was, but he, as a good husband does, rolled with my wishes and on 2/17/20, we became parents again...
Thank GOD! I can't imagine this whole situation without our amazing Moji. He definitely has brought more mojo into our lives, which is actually the word from which we derived his name.
He makes me laugh multiple times a day.
He distracts me from the distressing news.
He forces me to go outside and be with nature more.
He keeps me busy cleaning up after him & teaching him manners.
He makes my heart melt when I see him love on my husband.
This stay-at-home order would be so much worse if it were...
I ask because I think a lot of us at midlife think back to choices we made when we were younger and wonder about how our life would have been different had we made different decisions.
If that is you, STOP! You can't do a darn thing about your past!!!
What you have is TODAY and the only thing you can do is to focus on the choices you make RIGHT NOW!
I could look at this picture and wonder what if I hadn't broken up with him back on 12/28/79?... (Yes! I remember the specific date!) What if I had decided to get back together with him when he called me 6 months later? What if I had been patient and not rushed into another relationship and married someone else?
Well, we'll never know the answer to those questions. And that's ok.
Because I choose to believe that I was meant to be with my first husband, and he was meant to be the father of my amazing daughters. I had to learn whatever lessons that part of my life taught me. And my life had to go a certain way before that cute guy in the photo...
I want to share WHY I decided to get a puppy at 61 years of age...
Some may think that is too old to take on a puppy. Some may have thoughts that a new puppy could outlive them. Some may think that having a puppy is hard work. Some may think having a puppy is too restrictive.
Well, I tend to look for the pros and not the cons in every situation. Maybe It's the optimist in me... Or maybe it's my ability to always believe in the positive potential in my choices.
You've probably heard that what you focus on expands... Well, that mindset has served me very well in life!
After my 15 1/2 year old Chihuahua passed in January, I began thinking about getting another dog. And to be honest, I had to talk my husband into it. He was not ready to jump right back into parenthood.
But I KNEW a puppy would bring lots of extra love and laughter to our home. And who doesn't want more of THAT?
Of course work comes along with it, but the amount of laughter my husband and I have shared in this very difficult...
This will be one of my toughest posts to date, but it's one that is necessary. It's intention is not to make you sad but to share with you the light that this amazing creature brought into my life.
And when the grief gets better, I will smile every time I reat this post....
The Story of Dobby
Dobby, named after the elf in Harry Potter (in case you didn't get that!), was born on 6/1/04, and he came into our lives in September of that year quite by accident.
You see, I was always a lover of big dogs... when I was a kid, I dreamed of having Lassie. But when I grew up, I didn't end up with a Collie. I found a breed even better - big like Lassie, with long hair like Lassie and super smart like Lassie - a Bernese Mountain Dog.
I got my first BMD when I was 22 years old. He was my first child. Over the next 23 years, we raised 3 BMDs from pups. But after our 3rd died from a devastating disease, I was shaken and I made the decision that the next time, I wanted a small dog because I...
November 3rd, 2006... The day I decided to leave my comfort zone.
I will never forget it. Partly because it is in legal documents, but mostly because it was the day I had been scared of for so long.
I had thought about it for years actually but fear kept me stuck and in denial and in a place where I never want to be again. A place where I felt trapped and without choice.
So today is the day I chose. The day I chose me. The day I chose to accept my failure as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter, as a daughter-in-law, and as a sister-in-law.
I chose the dissolution of my 25 year marriage.
I tried so hard for so long to make it work. Counseling, conversation, talking myself into and out of things countless times. Convincing myself it was ok. Telling myself that we don't fight - we get along. Telling myself I made vows I can't break. Telling myself I can't hurt those I love.
But I was hurting myself. And by doing that, I was hurting the ones I loved because I wasn't living my truth and...
I was inspired to share something I learned over the weekend.
First let me give you a little context...
My husband & I went to Arkansas for 5 days on a trip that my husband and I have been asked to go on for 10 years. We were visiting my husband’s best friend (and locker partner) from 8th grade where he's made his home since graduating from law school back in the 80s.
Since my husband and I dated in college, his friend and I go back a few years too. And we see his friend once or twice a year when he comes to visit his mom & sister who lives near us. For 10 years, he has asked us to come visit him at his home in Arkansas.
We've always made excuses for not being able to take the trip:
But finally, this year, we decided to MAKE THE TIME to take the trip. And what happened was magical.
This trip turned...