I was chatting with someone yesterday about the transition we have to make as mothers when our kids leave the nest... I think it's one of the most difficult we face in life.
That is, if you like your kids! LOL!
All kidding aside, most of us who are moms LOVE being moms. It's our identity for most of our lives and then POOF, everything changes overnight.
Even for those who were working moms, like me. Being a mom was my primary job. My life revolved around my kids and their many activities. And I loved every minute of it!
We all have unique empty nest experiences and what I found the most surprising for me is that the transition from college to independent living was the most difficult.
When they were in college, we were still very intertwined in their lives. I was lucky to have 2 very chatty girls so we talked almost daily (thank God for the internet!). And they were home for every break and during the summer.
Then they graduated from college... and moved out!!!
Now THAT was...
No matter how old my children get, they continue to be the sun, the moon, and the stars to me. Though they no longer live with me, they are still top of my mind: their successes, my thrills; their bad days, my lows. Their successes are what prompted me to write today because frankly, I am beaming with pride in the people they’ve become. (Sorry if this is embarrassing you two!) How would you define success for your adult child? To me it is seeing my child happy, being passionate about what she is doing, and contributing to society in a positive way.
I remember vividly the thought I had the day the nurses handed over my first, all ready to leave the hospital at 2 days old, with her new mommy & daddy: “How will she survive? I do not have the slightest clue of what I’m doing.” The poor thing! Little did she know how green we were. How nice it would have been to have a crystal ball to look into the future & see that it would all turn out just fine.