Today I want to take a moment to give a shout out, along with a virtual hug , to those who are going through a life transition this holiday season...
It was in early November when my ex husband and I separated many years ago, and I faced my first Thanksgiving as a mom away from my kids. Even though they were grown, it was the most difficult holiday of my life.
Since I was going to be alone, I did what many would do in tough times - I hopped on a plane to my parents house! At age 47!!!
In hindsight, it was the holiday I will be forever thankful for because had it not been for my separation, I would not have spent it with my parents as it turned out to be the last Thanksgiving my dad spent here on Earth. He died unexpectedly, the following June.
But it's also a memorable holiday because, although I spent that Thanksgiving without my kids, I finally chose to face my fears and take the necessary action that would bring me closer to the future I desired.
Yes it was the most painful...
I've found my 2nd half, the backside of life as they say, to be the upside, not the downslide we tend to dread when we are younger.
And for that reason, it's my passion to help others get excited about this phase... to have hope and excitement for the adventures to come, whatever they may be!
So I put together a free workshop called Midlife MOJOO Mastery to teach women how to uplevel their 2nd half and I love seeing all of the AHA moments from the women who are participating...
Here are a few from the 1st of 3 trainings:
"Eureka - Never underestimate someone's capacity for growth - The 2nd half is the best part of life. Thanks Laurie!"
"I don’t know how I ran across you.... but I feel The universe had a hand in it. I just made a post the other day how I have devoted the last 29 years (well still am) to being a mom. That my twins graduated and I’m a somewhat empty nester. I have a daughter with special needs who is at home for now till she goes back to college. But...
This guy is so much fun to be around! Yesterday marked 29 months since he was born, and I just gotta say, if you want to see the joy in life, spend it with a young child!
He sees the world like it's Christmas morning every morning - every day a new gift to be excited about, to open up and explore!
He's interested in EVERYTHING... He's curious, adventurous, fearless, and incredibly happy about the smallest of things.
He loves to cuddle. He loves to kiss. He's loves to talk, trying out every new word he hears! (So watch what you say! LOL!)
He's loves to laugh and loves to make everyone else laugh too. He's agreeable to pretty much everything (unless he's missed a nap!) And he has an endless twinkle in his blue eyes.
If we could all just be kids again, wouldn't that be amazing?!?!
To see life as he does... not as a challenge but as a gift!
To treat people like he does... no judgement and with lots of smiles!
To be as fearless & unworried as he is... not afraid to climb the...
I was chatting with someone yesterday about the transition we have to make as mothers when our kids leave the nest... I think it's one of the most difficult we face in life.
That is, if you like your kids! LOL!
All kidding aside, most of us who are moms LOVE being moms. It's our identity for most of our lives and then POOF, everything changes overnight.
Even for those who were working moms, like me. Being a mom was my primary job. My life revolved around my kids and their many activities. And I loved every minute of it!
We all have unique empty nest experiences and what I found the most surprising for me is that the transition from college to independent living was the most difficult.
When they were in college, we were still very intertwined in their lives. I was lucky to have 2 very chatty girls so we talked almost daily (thank God for the internet!). And they were home for every break and during the summer.
Then they graduated from college... and moved out!!!
Now THAT was...
I had a less than positive experience flying to Los Angeles this past week, but I never got mad or let it effect me in a negative way. I remained positive and rolled with the punches the airline kept throwing my way.
As I was thinking about what topic to write about this week, this experience popped into my head as a good example of how I keep a positive mindset. And since I'm always asked how I stay so positive, I thought this would be a great time to share my best tips...
Just to give you a sense of what happened with my flights, I'll go in chronological order.
Last Monday I was supposed to fly from Charlottesville to LA, with a connection through Chicago. About 24 hours before my flight, I got a text from the airline that my Chicago to LA flight was cancelled.
I immediately jumped on the phone with the airline and was able to secure the ONLY option, according to the flight attendant after about 30 minutes of searching. It wasn't an...
I remember it clearly… The day I found out I was an “accident.”
Days like that, the ones where the world as we knew it changes, tend to stand out in our memory. For me, it was because what I always thought to be true - that I was intentionally conceived & part of a plan - was no longer my reality.
And the funny thing is… the truth came out because of MY ACTIONS. We were sitting at the table, right after Thanksgiving dinner. I don’t remember the specific year, but I know it was at my sister’s house and I was a young married woman who was trying to get my parents to admit my sister was an accident.
Uh... That kind of back-fired. LOL!
In fact, I was 99% certain my sister was the accident of the family so I was simply pressing for confirmation of what I already knew... because who gets married after only dating 5 months and then gets immediately pregnant?
Well, I guess my parents do!
So here we were, at the dinner table, full...