Today I want to take a moment to give a shout out, along with a virtual hug , to those who are going through a life transition this holiday season...
It was in early November when my ex husband and I separated many years ago, and I faced my first Thanksgiving as a mom away from my kids. Even though they were grown, it was the most difficult holiday of my life.
Since I was going to be alone, I did what many would do in tough times - I hopped on a plane to my parents house! At age 47!!!
In hindsight, it was the holiday I will be forever thankful for because had it not been for my separation, I would not have spent it with my parents as it turned out to be the last Thanksgiving my dad spent here on Earth. He died unexpectedly, the following June.
But it's also a memorable holiday because, although I spent that Thanksgiving without my kids, I finally chose to face my fears and take the necessary action that would bring me closer to the future I desired.
Yes it was the most painful...
I love it when an idea comes to fruition!
About a week ago I mentioned to my husband that I don't like the office space that is set up for me in our basement. And now that I'm home full time, having a good place to work is so important.
Instead of going to "my office" in the basement every morning, I've been working in our family room, on the couch, which is not ideal because I tend to go nonstop...
I just keep going & going from 7 or 8am until 8 or 9p at night because I LOVE WHAT I DO SO MUCH... #alittleobsessed
My husband was all on board with this because he is starting to get jealous of the Mac on my lap that's getting more attention than him!
So I started thinking about other spaces in our house where I could set up an office and I had this idea that we could add a desk in our spare bedroom which he uses as an office!
Since he really only uses it to store his files and pick up papers on the printer, I thought it could work... And he agreed!
Since he loves...
I've found my 2nd half, the backside of life as they say, to be the upside, not the downslide we tend to dread when we are younger.
And for that reason, it's my passion to help others get excited about this phase... to have hope and excitement for the adventures to come, whatever they may be!
So I put together a free workshop called Midlife MOJOO Mastery to teach women how to uplevel their 2nd half and I love seeing all of the AHA moments from the women who are participating...
Here are a few from the 1st of 3 trainings:
"Eureka - Never underestimate someone's capacity for growth - The 2nd half is the best part of life. Thanks Laurie!"
"I don’t know how I ran across you.... but I feel The universe had a hand in it. I just made a post the other day how I have devoted the last 29 years (well still am) to being a mom. That my twins graduated and I’m a somewhat empty nester. I have a daughter with special needs who is at home for now till she goes back to college. But...
November 3rd, 2006... The day I decided to leave my comfort zone.
I will never forget it. Partly because it is in legal documents, but mostly because it was the day I had been scared of for so long.
I had thought about it for years actually but fear kept me stuck and in denial and in a place where I never want to be again. A place where I felt trapped and without choice.
So today is the day I chose. The day I chose me. The day I chose to accept my failure as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter, as a daughter-in-law, and as a sister-in-law.
I chose the dissolution of my 25 year marriage.
I tried so hard for so long to make it work. Counseling, conversation, talking myself into and out of things countless times. Convincing myself it was ok. Telling myself that we don't fight - we get along. Telling myself I made vows I can't break. Telling myself I can't hurt those I love.
But I was hurting myself. And by doing that, I was hurting the ones I loved because I wasn't living my truth and...
I friggin' just took action on the 2nd scariest thing I've ever done in my entire 60 years on Earth!!!
I had SO.MUCH.FEAR about this but I did it anyway!
You want to know why?
Because on the other side of fear is growth, adventure and magic! ALWAYS!!!
I took this scary action because the desire to do it was coming from my heart.... It was an inner voice thing, from deep inside of me. It's hard to explain but it just felt good - even though it scared the s*** out of me!
Being scared doesn't mean it's not right. Fear comes from doing something that you've never done before and usually what your conscious brain (ego) is trying to convince you not to do because it feels unsafe.
You see, your brain tries to keep you in your comfort zone because doing something that you've not done before, and which has a lot of fuzziness around it, does not fall into the safe category according to your logical brain.
I KNOW THIS because I teach it; however, that doesn't mean it comes any easier to...
Beginning my day by writing down what I'm grateful for has been a game-changer.
I started this daily activity just a little over a year ago and now have a whole journal filled with gratitude! I love the mental state it puts me in before I start my day.
If you'd like to know the other daily practices I do that are a part of my "Morning Mojo Mindset," click on the link below to learn more about them & why I do them.
Most people believe that when you reach a certain age, it’s too late to find the purpose for why you are here… and that, by midlife, you certainly can’t start from scratch and earn a living fulfilling that purpose.
Unfortunately most people spend their whole lives doing the only job they think they can do, whether it’s what their parents told them to do, what their parents did, or what they are good at, but it’s not what they love. It’s not what fills them with passion. Then they get to midlife and are unfulfilled, but they feel it’s too late to make any changes for reasons like: “I'm too old!” “I’m too busy!” or “It will take too much money!”
I totally get it! It’s so easy to sit inside our little comfort zones and keep doing what we’ve always done! I did that myself, until, at age 55, I stumbled upon something else that lit me up inside!
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I’m sure you’ve heard the common phrase: “Transformation happens from the inside out” but I’m here to call bullcrap on that!
It’s bullcrap because who in the heck has the desire or the confidence to work on their inside when they feel terrible on the outside?!?!
Unfortunately all those male “experts” out there who are telling us to work on our insides, have never dealt with menopause or bat wings!!! I actually had a client tell me that when she complained about her bloated belly, her male doctor told her that unfortunately that’s just a part of menopause.
That’s funny. I’ve had a bit of a pot belly my whole life (pre-menopause) yet my stomach got the flattest it’s ever been at age 55 after intensifying my exercise routine and improving my nutrition. And it wasn’t until I began to see results in the process of that transformation that I even considered the inside needed a transformation too!
Most people think success is inevitable once you have a goal and a plan.
They’ve put that goal, front & center, on their Vision Board, and they are taking action on it. But it’s just not happening!!!
In fact, it’s been on multiple vision boards and now they feel like a failure because they haven’t been able to achieve it.
Unfortunately they are missing ONE KEY INGREDIENT that will make that goal a reality...
And that is BELIEF!
If most people spent all day working toward a goal but don't believe it will happen, do you really think it will?
Look at Olympic medalists! Do you think they focused only on the actions towards their goal and didn't believe it could happen? No! In fact, I’ve seen numerous interviews with coaches, trainers, and even players in a variety of sports who said the key to their success was due to adopting the practice of visualization and belief into their training.
If you’re anything like me, switching off...
Thinking menopause is the main reason for the sad shape you are in is one of the worst midlife mindsets you can have. I know this because I used to have that mindset!
So many women think that way because when we are struggling with weight gain or lack of energy, we need an excuse. And that mindset is compounded when we get around like-minded peers who buy into this belief, which further validates to us that menopause is the culprit!!!
But will an excuse get you to a better mindset and ultimately the solution you need? Not at all!
Whether your excuse is time, money, OR menopause, none of them will help you get into those old size 8 jeans folded at the bottom of your drawer or give you the energy you need to go on all of the fun rides with your grandchildren at Disney World.
Is every menopausal woman out of shape and overweight? Heck no!!! I can name several who look amazing: Jane Fonda at 80, Sandra Bullock at 54, Christie Brinkley at 64, Diane Keaton at 72, and Kim...