I’m sure you’ve heard the common phrase: “Transformation happens from the inside out” but I’m here to call bullcrap on that!
It’s bullcrap because who in the heck has the desire or the confidence to work on their inside when they feel terrible on the outside?!?!
Unfortunately all those male “experts” out there who are telling us to work on our insides, have never dealt with menopause or bat wings!!! I actually had a client tell me that when she complained about her bloated belly, her male doctor told her that unfortunately that’s just a part of menopause.
That’s funny. I’ve had a bit of a pot belly my whole life (pre-menopause) yet my stomach got the flattest it’s ever been at age 55 after intensifying my exercise routine and improving my nutrition. And it wasn’t until I began to see results in the process of that transformation that I even considered the inside needed a transformation too!
Most people think success is inevitable once you have a goal and a plan.
They’ve put that goal, front & center, on their Vision Board, and they are taking action on it. But it’s just not happening!!!
In fact, it’s been on multiple vision boards and now they feel like a failure because they haven’t been able to achieve it.
Unfortunately they are missing ONE KEY INGREDIENT that will make that goal a reality...
And that is BELIEF!
If most people spent all day working toward a goal but don't believe it will happen, do you really think it will?
Look at Olympic medalists! Do you think they focused only on the actions towards their goal and didn't believe it could happen? No! In fact, I’ve seen numerous interviews with coaches, trainers, and even players in a variety of sports who said the key to their success was due to adopting the practice of visualization and belief into their training.
If you’re anything like me, switching off...
Thinking menopause is the main reason for the sad shape you are in is one of the worst midlife mindsets you can have. I know this because I used to have that mindset!
So many women think that way because when we are struggling with weight gain or lack of energy, we need an excuse. And that mindset is compounded when we get around like-minded peers who buy into this belief, which further validates to us that menopause is the culprit!!!
But will an excuse get you to a better mindset and ultimately the solution you need? Not at all!
Whether your excuse is time, money, OR menopause, none of them will help you get into those old size 8 jeans folded at the bottom of your drawer or give you the energy you need to go on all of the fun rides with your grandchildren at Disney World.
Is every menopausal woman out of shape and overweight? Heck no!!! I can name several who look amazing: Jane Fonda at 80, Sandra Bullock at 54, Christie Brinkley at 64, Diane Keaton at 72, and Kim...
I was inspired to share something I learned over the weekend.
First let me give you a little context...
My husband & I went to Arkansas for 5 days on a trip that my husband and I have been asked to go on for 10 years. We were visiting my husband’s best friend (and locker partner) from 8th grade where he's made his home since graduating from law school back in the 80s.
Since my husband and I dated in college, his friend and I go back a few years too. And we see his friend once or twice a year when he comes to visit his mom & sister who lives near us. For 10 years, he has asked us to come visit him at his home in Arkansas.
We've always made excuses for not being able to take the trip:
But finally, this year, we decided to MAKE THE TIME to take the trip. And what happened was magical.
This trip turned...
Many of my followers have heard my story of how my husband and I rekindled our relationship after being apart for 27 years.
Some day I'll write a book, as many have suggested, but until then, I'll keep documenting our continuing story through blog posts like this.
We just surpassed a big milestone - our 10th wedding anniversary! We celebrated by taking a fabulous 3 night trip to the Greenbrier Resort in West Virginia. (If you've never been there, GO! You can check it out here: https://www.greenbrier.com/)
It's hard to believe 10 years has passed so quickly, and easily! By this point in my first marriage, I had already been through a very rocky period and several visits to a therapist. When I compare the past 10 years to the first 10 of my last marriage, this one has been a breeze and it just keeps getting better.
People say marriage takes hard work. Well, I don't buy that because that hasn't been the case for me! I worked REALLY HARD in my first...
So you love and swear by To-Do lists, but for some reason, you never seem to make progress on your goals. Hmmmm. Interesting! Well I’m here to explain why….
First off, let me guess... You are a go-getter. You describe yourself as Type A and an overachiever. And you wear those labels probably because it implies you get a lot of s#!$ done.
And you get butterflies in your stomach (the excited kind) when you go by the journal section at Home Goods! You just have to have that cute notebook for your To-Do lists! It even has check boxes built in!!!
Well just because you love to-do lists and checkboxes, doesn't mean you are effective at putting the RIGHT THINGS on them! Take it from me, who's been a master at checking off checkboxes - just because you are madly checking off boxes, don't fool yourself into thinking you are on your way to making your dreams come true.
Yeah, checking off boxes feels good in the moment but it's like that bowl of ice cream you...
Today I'm celebrating a HUGE ONE YEAR GOAL that I set back in October...
I'm still on Cloud 9 from the experience, and I'm so proud of myself by the mere fact I even set it as a goal, then went after it and ACHIEVED IT!
My goal was be interviewed by my favorite podcaster, James Wedmore, for his podcast "Mind Your Business!" And I did it with almost half of the year left to go!!! (As of this writing, the episode has not aired yet. Once it airs, I'll update this post with a link to the recording.)
What makes this achievement even more surreal is that, even though I set this goal for real 7 months ago, it's been something I've wanted to do since I first started listening to James' podcast over 2 years ago!
Before I get into the specific actions I took to reach this big goal, it's important to add a little perspective...
A big goal like this is typically preceded by a lot of other little goals that need to happen first. So...
The best description for what happened last September is that it was serendipity!
This guy is so much fun to be around! Yesterday marked 29 months since he was born, and I just gotta say, if you want to see the joy in life, spend it with a young child!
He sees the world like it's Christmas morning every morning - every day a new gift to be excited about, to open up and explore!
He's interested in EVERYTHING... He's curious, adventurous, fearless, and incredibly happy about the smallest of things.
He loves to cuddle. He loves to kiss. He's loves to talk, trying out every new word he hears! (So watch what you say! LOL!)
He's loves to laugh and loves to make everyone else laugh too. He's agreeable to pretty much everything (unless he's missed a nap!) And he has an endless twinkle in his blue eyes.
If we could all just be kids again, wouldn't that be amazing?!?!
To see life as he does... not as a challenge but as a gift!
To treat people like he does... no judgement and with lots of smiles!
To be as fearless & unworried as he is... not afraid to climb the...
I was chatting with someone yesterday about the transition we have to make as mothers when our kids leave the nest... I think it's one of the most difficult we face in life.
That is, if you like your kids! LOL!
All kidding aside, most of us who are moms LOVE being moms. It's our identity for most of our lives and then POOF, everything changes overnight.
Even for those who were working moms, like me. Being a mom was my primary job. My life revolved around my kids and their many activities. And I loved every minute of it!
We all have unique empty nest experiences and what I found the most surprising for me is that the transition from college to independent living was the most difficult.
When they were in college, we were still very intertwined in their lives. I was lucky to have 2 very chatty girls so we talked almost daily (thank God for the internet!). And they were home for every break and during the summer.
Then they graduated from college... and moved out!!!
Now THAT was...