Do you have obsessive traits?
I think it's interesting that obsession is generally frowned upon as a negative. When you hear someone is obsessed, what comes to mind? A crazy person who is out of control, right?
When I was a little girl, I had what I now know is OCD. It was not a thing then so even if I told anyone, no one would have done anything about it probably. And I eventually outgrew it - to a degree.
My mind was constantly consumed with really crazy thoughts, like making sure I didn't turn completely around, (if I turned around to the left, I had to quickly turn back to the right), I had to close my dresser drawers on an even number, I could not inhale in certain situations (if I didn't like someone or something, I had to exhale when I looked at it/them)... Kind of nutty, eh?
I kept these rituals and thoughts to myself although I did exhibit one I remember in particular: I asked my mother the same 3 questions every night before I went to bed. I even remember a couple of...
Do you believe in second chances?
Do you believe in the kind where you take a chance on something that you failed at before?
Do you believe in the kind where you give someone else a second chance at being the person you knew they were capable of but failed you before?
I do. I believe in both kinds.
I want to believe that we all learn from our mistakes, that we get wiser and better with each failure.
And that possibly, just possibly, we become more determined to succeed the next time we have that chance.
10 years ago, I made a second chance decision. It was super scary. I had voices in my head telling me it was too big of a risk, that it would only lead to heartache again.
But I had to choose to try. I have only one life to live and I didn't want my life to end with any what if's.
And then there was that gut thing... I had this feeling deep in my gut that it was meant to be. That my path was meant to lead back to him and his to mine.
And when the timing was right, it...
I’ve been reading a book called The Miracle Morning and I love it! I’ve learned a lot of things from this book so far and I’ve started to implement a few that have made a HUGE difference in my life this past week.
The first thing I do is meditate for 10 minutes. I’m using a guided meditation app that I downloaded to my phone because, if you're anything like me, I have a monkey mind which has a hard time being still. It's hard for me to concentrate and focus on meditation type behavior so the guided meditation really helps
Meditation forces me to free my mind from thoughts. I LOVE MY WORK and I usually jump right into it first thing but I’ve found that I need meditation to quiet my mind and prepare for the day ahead.
After my meditation, I do affirmations for about 5 minutes. I've done affirmations in the past but they've fallen by the wayside. As with many things, if you haven't really developed the habit, then you get busy and...
Today's lesson from Calm:
"One of the challenges of meditation is stopping and taking the time to do it. For many of us putting a pause on productivity is difficult. We love to feel like we're getting somewhere and accomplishing things.
We've become addicted to visible progress; therefore sitting and meditating to some might appear to be inactive and unproductive. There's nothing further from the truth.
The daily rush against the clock creates the illusion that the more we do and the more we accomplish is what drives our success. This is a misinformed and counterintuitive belief.
As we fill up every moment, we leave no space to observe what's going on in our minds and bodies. No opportunity for clarity or insight. No room for rest, recovery, or healing. Or for creativity and and new ideas to be born.
So there is tremendous value in this time you're spending in stillness and non-doing."
I recently had a light bulb moment and I realized I've never really shared how Not Your Average Grandma came about. It's been sort of a long and winding road but before I start I have three questions:
Have you spent a majority of your life focused on being the best mom, like THE BEST mom in the world?
Have you spent another large portion of your life climbing the corporate ladder and trying to be the best, most fantastic worker in your company?
Have you ever woken up one day and realized you're just not happy?
If that's you then you're the reason I created this page because that was me and I remember the day that it all changed: November 3, 2006.
It’s been 11 years ago so a lot has happened since then. I'm happy to tell you that I got unstuck! I've grown & changed a lot since that day so that was really my breaking point.
I went to my now ex-husband and I told him that I wanted to end our 25-year marriage. I must tell you that that was the most difficult,...
This excerpt from "The 12 Week Year" hit a chord with me...
"The choices that you make on how you spend your time, ultimately create your results in life. The great people, the giants of history whether in politics, culture, art, science, religion, or any endeavor you can think of, had no more time in each day than you do. What they did with their time made all the difference. The breakdown lies in your moment-by-moment choices. Most people make choices that increase their short-term benefits and minimize their short-term costs.
In 2011, the average American spent 2.8 hours a day watching TV. That's 12% of our lives - and that number does not include the hours spent on the newly available entertainment devices such as smart phones and tablets. We often watch TV to escape and to relax. We do it partly because it's easy; we don't have to do anything except change the channel. The TV may be beneficial in some ways, but helping us to live a life of significance isn't one of them."
Wanna know why I’m so excited this morning?!!! Because I am FINALLY putting into motion something that I should have done awhile ago…
The reason I’ve not taken action on it is because I kept thinking too small! I kept thinking I don’t need it yet. I kept thinking, I can’t afford it.
It’s the cousin of that negative voice in your head. It’s the voice that keeps you in your comfort zone. The voice that convinces you that things are just fine the way they are. #goaway
But a couple of weeks ago I started to really listen… Not to the comfort zone scaredy-cat inside my head but to a balls-to-the-wall entrepreuner who shared WHY I need to take this step. (And it’s a she so she really has no balls to take to the wall but if she had them, they would be ON THE WALL for sure!!!)
So TODAY IS THE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I started interviewing for a virtual assistant!!!!!!! Woohoo! #happydanceinfullswing
One thing I love about my husband is that he brings out my most authentic self. I'm not sure why but I remember feeling that from the first moment I met him when I was 18 years old.
We connected in a way that was so REAL and RAW... He knew me to my depths and it felt so freeing.
When I started dating him again almost 30 years later, that feeling returned and man was it ever AWESOME!!!
Find people who bring out your authentic self. The world will be better for it and so will you!!!
I went live on Facebook to show people how I fail every day... And then, something happened!!! I succeeded! I swear I had not been able to complete this move prior to this live video. I surprised myself!!! So keep on trying and maybe you'll be surprised! Yay me!!!!!!
Focus on personal growth. It's the best thing you can do for yourself no matter how old you are. It will move you forward and into a better life. I promise!!!
Tell me one thing you are doing today to move forward. One thing that you plan to make progress on... Is it a book you are reading, a training you are doing, or something new you are learning?
Today I am purchasing a ukulele. Learning to play 2 songs is on my vision board for this year.